Saturday, July 14, 2012

What One Woman Wants: The List

Boys Vs. Girls. The battle rages on.. or does it?


MythBusting: What Women Want.

There's been a lot of confusion as to what women want. due, partly to the Women's Movement, but mostly, to us not knowing what the hell we want. So I have been thinking lately of my "List". The List is a simple way a woman can construct her ideal mate. You simply make a list of all the qualities they should have, and by putting it out there to the universe, the person magically appears.

It's based on part fantasy, part desperate attempt to not attract anyone remotely like the Ex. In the past, my list was too short. Be employed and taller than me: don't cheat. That was it.

 #1 on my list is "be kind". Nuff said.

#2 is Be Into Me!! I'm so sick of the apathetic "cool" types who can't be bothered to call let alone take me out on a date. . Don't just hint that it's okay to come over cuz you're home watching tv.  And if you're passing a store, can you bring some beer? Court me! We want to be pursued...

#3 Open the Pickle Jar.  It's a myth that women don't want you to open the door, give us the last seat on the bus, pay the check. Be a gentleman. In my book, the more guy stuff you do for me, the more girl stuff you get a credit for. You change my oil? Your favorite home made cookies. You do a home repair, I cook an amazing meal.  If I'm stranded in a broken down car on the side of the road, I do expect you to rescue me, even if you just stay on the phone with me til the tow guy arrives. However if you come and literally rescue me...
you get birthday sex when it's not your birthday.

#4 Don't be too fit. Fitness buffs intimidate me. Be healthy and active but don't be vain about it.

Myth: Women are Emotional
Fact: Humans are Emotional

#5 Emotional Maturity. Be able to handle your emotions, balance them, deal with them. Admit you have more emotions then just "anger".  Society tries to limit the range of emotions a guy can have. If a guy falls for it, he's not being authentic.

I have about 30 things on my list so far... stuff like
  • supports my goals
  • loves my son
  • good kisser
  • above average sense of humor
  • several inches taller than me
  • pro 420

  • does not smell like cigarette smoke....

(Got to wrap it up its a blog, not a book. )

He can't be a Dick....

did I mention he should be into me?

Tell me what gender myths you've busted in your relationships? Did you write a list? Did it work?

Peace & Love. FCL