week 1, May 22, 2011 GBE2 hosted by the lovely and talented Elizabeth Grace.
This weeks topic; Expectations
Self expectations can be way too limiting. I expected to pass high school for example, and it took me another 25 years to get a college degree. I expect to be able to keep the job I got, or finish a class i started, and when things go south, i beat the hell outta myself. Tricky and limiting, these self expectations. At least i’m not a perfectionist. To line up your expectations and your self image is tricky. You want to always grow and also to accept yourself. those conflict to me.
I expect people not to hit me, and that’s about it. lol I guess i expect respect unless i've wronged you which hey, i'm not perfect, maybe in a past life or who knows. I know when you surpass when others expect of you, it often irritates the crud out of them. Which is fun. this happened when i lost almost all my fat. This irritated everyone around me. That bugged me but I won't let it next time. Same thing with making money. I made a ton breifly and oh, were my friends green. That was kind of shocking. lol next time, i'm going to hide it & play poor.
(get it? the tall poppy must be cut down to size)
to me expectation links to anticipation. I revel in anticipation almost too much. The journey is just so enjoyable. I almost hate to arrive anywhere lol
· Not attaching to outcomes
the problems arise when we paint a picture of how it should work out, and any deviation from our script is a failure. Not good
I keep an open abundance of possibilities, and never cling to just one too hard.
expectation is like hope, it’s like a kid at Christmas. Expecting Santa to bring the goods, eat the cookies, & it all comes true.
Tony Robbins (google him) favors the idea of
certainty. This is better than hope according to him, because it cuts out the
options you don’t want. The one you do want, go with that. It doesn’t seem very zen but it works for me. I expected, with certainty, I would get a job before my unemployment and everything ran out. It just works out best for me when I leave myself no other options. I still am not attached to the exact outcome, I applied for every make and manner of job. I just needed one by May. Boom. Like that.